Meet Marissa. At 47, she’s in perimenopause, working long hours, and managing a household with two teens. Like many of us, she’s a lifelong people-pleaser — the one who picks up the slack, keeps things running, and says yes even when she’s exhausted.
Her breaking point? The dishes.
One night, after a draining day, she walked into the kitchen to see the sink piled high. Her chest tightened. The voice in her head started: “Of course, no one else cares. It’s always on me. I do everything.”
Normally, this is the moment she’d slam a cabinet door or go quiet and stew while cleaning everything herself. But this time, she tried EFT tapping.
What She Did
- She excused herself to the bathroom for two minutes.
- She tapped on the side of her hand while saying: “Even though I feel taken advantage of, I deeply accept myself.”
- Moving through the tapping points, she named it: “I’m furious. I feel invisible. I feel like no one helps me.”
- As she tapped, the tightness in her chest softened. The intensity dropped from an 8/10 to a 3/10.
When she came back, instead of rage-cleaning the kitchen, she calmly told her family:
“I need help tonight. I can’t do this on my own.”
And this time, they listened.
Why It Worked
Marissa wasn’t just angry about the dishes — she was stuck in her people-pleasing loop. Her nervous system equated “keeping the peace” with safety, which left her resentful and overwhelmed.
Tapping helped her body release the fight-or-flight surge, so instead of exploding or staying silent, she had the space to use her voice and ask for help.
Science Check 🧠
Research shows that EFT tapping can lower cortisol levels (the body’s main stress hormone) and calm the nervous system in just a few minutes. In one study, participants saw anxiety drop 40%, depression 35%, and cortisol levels significantly decrease after tapping.
(National Library of Medicine)
How We Help Inside the Your Daily® App
This is exactly what we teach inside our app.
- Guided tapping sequences to break the people-pleasing loop in real time.
- Quick resets you can do in two minutes, before resentment boils over.
- Daily practices that grow your capacity so you don’t feel like you’re carrying the whole load alone.
Because regulating your nervous system doesn’t just calm you down. It gives you the space to ask for what you need.
Want to get started creating your personalized EFT plan? Head into the Your Daily app and talk to our AI Health Coach who can help you script the affirmations you need to make change happen in your life.
Not sure what words to use while you tap?
We’ve got you. Head into the Your Daily® app and our AI Health Coach will help you craft the affirmations you need to calm your body and change your patterns.
